Many times I’ve questioned my abilities to flower and bloom. I keep wondering why I’m not growing. Am I forcing my petals too strongly? Am I leaning one way too much? Am I not communicating my needs? Why can’t I shine like I feel like I can?
I know many of us feel this way – especially women. Since a young age, we’re trained to adapt, not to make a fuss, not to rock the boat, and to just fit in. So you become adaptable and find a way to “grow.” I then realized there are many factors in my growth…not just the ones I can immediately control.
When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows,
not the flower.
-Alexander den Heijer
When I came to this realization a great weight was lifted.
I can grow.
I can bloom.
There ARE places that have fertile soil for you – even have people and places that will feed and water you.
Don’t be afraid to look and find them.
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